Heard some news about the ole' wife-beater! He left his 3rd wife and has been seen with 3 or 4 other women. OMG!
I'm just enjoying being independant! Life with me, myself and ME!
And of course, loving the FREEDOM!
Wow! just blows my mind.
just had to share that little tid bit
been on my own now for 4 months~ still lovin it! working on adding more to the book, I actually have sold 2 online
Thursday, October 13, 2011
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
WOW!
It's been a wild ride the past two months! Finally all settled into my new place. Still aquiring household items, summer is a great time to have moved! Lawn sales, moving sales, garage sales, Craigslist...you can find some pretty awesome treasures!
It took awhile to get my internet, but I am up and running now!
New found freedom! all I can say is WOW!!! it feels pretty awesome! Independence that I have never had. Yes I have been away from my parents for a long time. And then moved back in with my mother after my step father passed away. Which was more of a healing process than anything else. I wouldn't trade that time I spent there with her, for anything! When I moved out, it was joyful and sad. She helped me in so many ways. The first weekend I was here in my new apt. she helped me with the last bit of moving and spent the afternoon here with me unpacking. At one point she poured 2 margaritas and took my hand leading me out to my back deck, to sit in the sun with her. She had bought me a gift. It was actually for her and I. She had purchased a gift set of two toe rings. One for her and one for me. It was to symbolize our freedom. When I moved out, it was the first time that BOTH of us have been on our own! She had always been married, or had kids. First time for my mother, at 60. and the first time for me, at 40. Something that could have been very sad, we turned into a triumph~!
I am not very far from her, about 4 miles. So we are keeping up with the closeness that we found while I lived with her. We both know what a gift we have been given and we will not take it for granted. I have found my mother and she found her daughter. That is a priceless gift, that I will treasure forever.
I have been out of her house for a month and a half now. She is still buying trinkets for me. Things that I admired and used in her kitchen. She has bought me. Something as simple as a hand crank can opener that opens the can but dulls the edges on the can top. LOL She is always thinking about me, and when I go shopping for something that I need at my new place...if I find a dragon fly of any sort, I get it for her. I don't think that any mother and daughter that I know of have the bond that my mother and I share now.
We have overcome so much. Together and apart. We have both been through a tremendous amount in our lives. And this is our time to smile, have fun, have a BBQ, drink and be merry, or just giggle over a cup of morning coffee and laugh at the simplicity of our pets playing, (her cat and my little dog). Which by the way, we have to share my little dog, because both Mom and her cat miss my little Skeeter! LOL just something else that strengthens the relationship...
Thank you Mom for all you have done for me and continue to do! I love you!
So, I want you to LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE to the fullest. I have said it before, but I really mean it and it is really words to live by...
LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE!!
It took awhile to get my internet, but I am up and running now!
New found freedom! all I can say is WOW!!! it feels pretty awesome! Independence that I have never had. Yes I have been away from my parents for a long time. And then moved back in with my mother after my step father passed away. Which was more of a healing process than anything else. I wouldn't trade that time I spent there with her, for anything! When I moved out, it was joyful and sad. She helped me in so many ways. The first weekend I was here in my new apt. she helped me with the last bit of moving and spent the afternoon here with me unpacking. At one point she poured 2 margaritas and took my hand leading me out to my back deck, to sit in the sun with her. She had bought me a gift. It was actually for her and I. She had purchased a gift set of two toe rings. One for her and one for me. It was to symbolize our freedom. When I moved out, it was the first time that BOTH of us have been on our own! She had always been married, or had kids. First time for my mother, at 60. and the first time for me, at 40. Something that could have been very sad, we turned into a triumph~!
I am not very far from her, about 4 miles. So we are keeping up with the closeness that we found while I lived with her. We both know what a gift we have been given and we will not take it for granted. I have found my mother and she found her daughter. That is a priceless gift, that I will treasure forever.
I have been out of her house for a month and a half now. She is still buying trinkets for me. Things that I admired and used in her kitchen. She has bought me. Something as simple as a hand crank can opener that opens the can but dulls the edges on the can top. LOL She is always thinking about me, and when I go shopping for something that I need at my new place...if I find a dragon fly of any sort, I get it for her. I don't think that any mother and daughter that I know of have the bond that my mother and I share now.
We have overcome so much. Together and apart. We have both been through a tremendous amount in our lives. And this is our time to smile, have fun, have a BBQ, drink and be merry, or just giggle over a cup of morning coffee and laugh at the simplicity of our pets playing, (her cat and my little dog). Which by the way, we have to share my little dog, because both Mom and her cat miss my little Skeeter! LOL just something else that strengthens the relationship...
Thank you Mom for all you have done for me and continue to do! I love you!
So, I want you to LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE to the fullest. I have said it before, but I really mean it and it is really words to live by...
LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE!!
Friday, June 17, 2011
feeling wonderful!
OMG! today was a really awesome day! I overcame a fear that I have had for a very long time. A fear of being alone... I signed a lease on my very own apartment! I feel incredible ! I am sooooooo excited! LOL 40 yrs old and I am finally getting out on my own. I'm spreading my wings. I have been on a high all day! Who knew? Who knew that this simple thing, in some people's eyes, could make a person feel so free! I even get to keep my loving companion, my prince, my shih tzu. Opening a new chapter in Ashley's journey. The best is yet to come!! NO ONE TO CONTROL ME! That is priceless!! Looking forward to un packing my storage unit this weekend and especially looking forward to a day with my mom! We are going shopping! Shopping for my new "pad"!! :-)
Monday, June 13, 2011
PTSD
PTSD is not only for the veteran of war. Soldiers are not the only ones that go through this. Any trauma, can leave you with the effects of this. It affects you in so many ways. Please read on to learn more.
PTSD
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Post-traumatic stress disorder is a type of anxiety disorder. It can occur after you've seen or experienced a traumatic event that involved the threat of injury or death.
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) may occur soon after a major trauma, or it can be delayed for more than 6 months after the event. When it occurs soon after the trauma, it usually gets better after 3 months. However, some people have a longer-term form of PTSD, which can last for many years.
PTSD can occur at any age and can follow a natural disaster such as a flood or fire, or events such as war, a prison stay, assault, domestic abuse, or rape. The terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001, in the United States may have caused PTSD in some people who were involved, in people who saw the disaster, and in people who lost relatives and friends. These kinds of events can produce stress in anyone, but not everyone develops PTSD.
The cause of PTSD is unknown, but psychological, genetic, physical, and social factors are involved. PTSD changes the body’s response to stress. It affects the stress hormones and chemicals that carry information between the nerves (neurotransmitters). Having been exposed to trauma in the past may increase the risk of PTSD.
Having good social support helps to protect against PTSD. In studies of Vietnam veterans, those with strong support systems were less likely to get PTSD than those without social support.
People with PTSD re-experience the event again and again in at least one of several ways. They may have frightening dreams and memories of the event, feel as though they are going through the experience again (flashbacks), or become upset during anniversaries of the event.People with PTSD re-experience the event again and again in at least one of several ways. They may have frightening dreams and memories of the event, feel as though they are going through the experience again (flashbacks), or become upset during anniversaries of the event.
Symptoms of PTSD fall into three main categories:
1. Repeated "reliving" of the event, which disturbs day-to-day activity
There are no tests that can be done to diagnose PTSD. The diagnosis is made based on a certain set of symptoms that continue after you've had extreme trauma. Your doctor will do psychiatric and physical exams to rule out other illnesses.Treatment aims to reduce symptoms by encouraging you to recall the event, express your feelings, and gain some sense of control over the experience. In some cases, expressing grief helps to complete the necessary mourning process. Support groups, where people who have had similar experiences can share their feelings, are helpful.
People with PTSD may need to treat depression, alcohol or substance abuse, or related medical conditions before addressing symptoms of PTSD. Behavioral therapy is used to treat avoidance symptoms. This can include being exposed to the object that triggers your symptoms until you become used to it and no longer avoid it (called graded exposure and flooding).
Medicines that act on the nervous system can help reduce anxiety and other symptoms of PTSD. Antidepressants, including selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) such as fluoxetine (Prozac), can be effective in treating PTSD.
A number of other medicines used for mental health disorders may be prescribed. A doctor should monitor you if you take these drugs, because they can have side effects. Sedatives can help with sleep disturbance. Anti-anxiety medicines may be useful, but some types, such as benzodiazepines, can be addictive.You can find more information about post-traumatic stress disorder and coping with a national tragedy from the American Psychiatric Association -- www.psych.org.The best outcome, or prognosis, depends on how soon the symptoms develop after the trauma, and on how quickly you get diagnosed and treated.Although traumatic events like the September 11 tragedy can cause distress, not all feelings of distress are symptoms of PTSD. Talk about your feelings with friends and relatives. If your symptoms last longer, or are worse, than those of your friends, contact your doctor.
Seek help immediately by going to the emergency room or calling the local emergency number (such as 911) if:
Research into ways to prevent PTSD is ongoing.
Causes, incidence, and risk factors
PTSD can occur at any age and can follow a natural disaster such as a flood or fire, or events such as war, a prison stay, assault, domestic abuse, or rape. The terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001, in the United States may have caused PTSD in some people who were involved, in people who saw the disaster, and in people who lost relatives and friends. These kinds of events can produce stress in anyone, but not everyone develops PTSD.
The cause of PTSD is unknown, but psychological, genetic, physical, and social factors are involved. PTSD changes the body’s response to stress. It affects the stress hormones and chemicals that carry information between the nerves (neurotransmitters). Having been exposed to trauma in the past may increase the risk of PTSD.
Having good social support helps to protect against PTSD. In studies of Vietnam veterans, those with strong support systems were less likely to get PTSD than those without social support.
People with PTSD re-experience the event again and again in at least one of several ways. They may have frightening dreams and memories of the event, feel as though they are going through the experience again (flashbacks), or become upset during anniversaries of the event.
Symptoms
Symptoms of PTSD fall into three main categories:
1. Repeated "reliving" of the event, which disturbs day-to-day activity
- Flashback episodes, where the event seems to be happening again and again
- Recurrent distressing memories of the event
- Repeated dreams of the event
- Physical reactions to situations that remind you of the traumatic event
- Emotional "numbing," or feeling as though you don’t care about anything
- Feelings of detachment
- Inability to remember important aspects of the trauma
- Lack of interest in normal activities
- Less expression of moods
- Staying away from places, people, or objects that remind you of the event
- Sense of having no future
- Difficulty concentrating
- Exaggerated response to things that startle you
- Excess awareness (hypervigilance)
- Irritability or outbursts of anger
- Sleeping difficulties
- Agitation, or excitability
- Dizziness
- Fainting
- Feeling your heart beat in your chest (palpitations)
- Fever
- Headache
- Paleness
Signs and tests
Treatment
People with PTSD may need to treat depression, alcohol or substance abuse, or related medical conditions before addressing symptoms of PTSD. Behavioral therapy is used to treat avoidance symptoms. This can include being exposed to the object that triggers your symptoms until you become used to it and no longer avoid it (called graded exposure and flooding).
Medicines that act on the nervous system can help reduce anxiety and other symptoms of PTSD. Antidepressants, including selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) such as fluoxetine (Prozac), can be effective in treating PTSD.
A number of other medicines used for mental health disorders may be prescribed. A doctor should monitor you if you take these drugs, because they can have side effects. Sedatives can help with sleep disturbance. Anti-anxiety medicines may be useful, but some types, such as benzodiazepines, can be addictive.
Support Groups
Expectations (prognosis)
Complications
- Alcohol abuse
- Depression, anxiety, and fear of things that are not usually frightening to other people (phobia), may be part of this disorder
- Drug abuse
Calling your health care provider
Seek help immediately by going to the emergency room or calling the local emergency number (such as 911) if:
- You feel overwhelmed by guilt
- You are impulsive
- You are thinking of hurting yourself
- You are unable to contain your behavior
- You have other very distressing symptoms of PTSD
Prevention
References
- Bisson J, Andrew M. Psychological treatment of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Cochrane Database Syst Rev. 2007;3:CD003388. [PubMed: 17636720]
- Ipser JC, Carey P, Dhansay Y, Fakier N, Seedat S, Stein DJ. Pharmacotherapy augmentation strategies in treatment-resistant anxiety disorders. Cochrane Syst Rev. 2006;4:CD005473. [PubMed: 17054260]
- Review Date: 2/14/2010.Reviewed by: Fred K. Berger, MD, Addiction and Forensic Psychiatrist, Scripps Memorial Hospital, La Jolla, California. Also reviewed by David Zieve, MD, MHA, Medical Director, A.D.A.M., Inc.
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Post-traumatic stress disorder
PTSD is a severe reaction to a traumatic event that involves re-experiencing the event through dreams, recollections or flashbacks. Social support plays a role in protecting people from developing PTSD.
Review Date: 2/14/2010.
Reviewed by: Fred K. Berger, MD, Addiction and Forensic Psychiatrist, Scripps Memorial Hospital, La Jolla, California. Also reviewed by David Zieve, MD, MHA, Medical Director, A.D.A.M., Inc.
Review Date: 2/14/2010.
Reviewed by: Fred K. Berger, MD, Addiction and Forensic Psychiatrist, Scripps Memorial Hospital, La Jolla, California. Also reviewed by David Zieve, MD, MHA, Medical Director, A.D.A.M., Inc.
Friday, June 10, 2011
summer is finally here...
Summer is finally here! Sunshine, humidity and thunderstorms...Flowers are in bloom, the hummingbirds are at the feeders...I love this time of year!! I could sit on the deck with my coffee all morning and not get bored! The sounds of the birds in the morning when the sun is coming up over the horizon. Basking in the rays of the sun, energizing you and kissing your pale skin from the winter months...Mmm, yep, it's a beautiful time of year, it's my favorite time of year. Driving home from work at night and seeing the sunset over the mountain range. Despite the depression that rears its ugly head, it sure is a sweet time of year to be in a great mood. I love the sun! And if I hadn't fled from those hands that hurt me, I wouldn't be here to enjoy it! It's the simple pleasures that you forget about in the day to day busy-ness of LIFE! Stop to smell the flowers and the fresh cut grass. Stop and look up at the sky on a sunny day, do you see any billowy clouds? Pull up a blanket on the lawn and lay down, watch the clouds drift by. Just dream for a little while, be a kid again, dream of floating on that cloud above. Find the silly shapes they make in the sky, take time to enjoy it!
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